Saturday, August 25, 2007 ;
3:22 AM
For 2 hours, 2 whole hours, yet it seems like 20 hours.
This is how my mum, my neighbour and i feel.
It started at around 12.10am. They were quarrelling at the lift area, it grew louder and make my parents and neigbours awake. Wondering what happen, we went down and see. Though my mom asked me not to interfere but, the quarrel seems agressive. True enough, we went down and we saw Mother and Daughter(holding the key lock, the heavy metal thing) quarrelling.
She was extremely agitated, constantly shouting and crying. Had a few breakdowns in front of us. We saw her mom, barefooted, standing at the lift area, we wondered why. Immediately, her daughter screaming that her mom is some kind of big shot, who wants to go my another neighbour house to wash her legs and also saying that her legs are dirty and she cannot step into the house.
She was crying and crying, and her mother seems helpless. After persuading her to return home, my neighbour, my mom and i walked them back to their flat and we bid goodbye and we left. Not long after her mom ran towards us, claiming that her daughter used the lock and hit her head.
Her daughter of course ran after her. The girl's mother ran to my house for "protection", while washing her legs as well. My neighbour, neighbour's daughter, my mom and i was comforting her downstairs. Slowly...slowly, she began to say all her unhappiness.
She claimed that her father passed away, her grandmother committed suicide (i heard from my mom is because she had some serious illnesses). And since then, from young, she and her mum were living together.
To her, everyday was like a torture. Everyday, when she returned home, she will face the 4 cold walls. Her mom was working (as a nurse) for her. As you all know, nurse job is like a shift work, therefore interaction will be lesser. Since young, her mother loves to compare her results with other people. (that's what she claims)
She says her mother dont care about her. At that point of time, suddenly, there were flashbacks inside my mind. I know...i know when i was younger, i said the same thing to my parents. They must be very hurt at that time. At that moment i can feel the pain in my heart. I dont know why.
As she continue speaking, she suddenly grew agitated again, with her tears coming out like tap water. Out of a sudden, she pushed me and my neighbour away, claiming that she wants to jump down the building. She said things like why was she born into this world, what is the use of her coming to this world, i will never want to be her daughter and things like that.Of course, my neighbour and i grabbed her back. Boy, it was a horrifying experience.
Meanwhile, i heard from my dad that the mother was contacting her sister(who is also the girl's auntie) to come. The girl was crying and crying and yet i do not know how to help her. I'm only able to hold her while my neighbour was trying to liven up the atmosphere by saying how she enjoyed life.
I think i saw the girl was smiling. But i do not know whether isst me who saw or it was just my imagination. Finally, she wants to go home, so my mom went to call her mom down. And really, the girl's mother really took a long while before coming down. The girl, suddenly went agitated again, saying that her mother was some big shot, must let people begged her to come down. Of course, we all know that her mom was afraid that by showing up, she will further agitate the girl.
After a while, we followed her back, afraid that she will suddenly jump down again. She broke down again, begging us not to follow her. But we really got no choice.In the end, we compromised that by the count of 3, we shall go our seperate ways. So, 1..2...3, we went our seperate ways, the 2 of them went back. Being worried, we all stood at the corriders to hope that this thing was over.
And bad enough, the same thing happened. The girl used the lock to hit her mom's head again. Haix! Why did she have to do that for? I can even imagine how it feels like to be hammered by that metal lock. They ran back to our side again. And the whole thing repeated itself again. Her mom ran to my house to hide again and we are there comforting her. My neighbour was still trying to comfort her.After a long while, i talked to her.
She was only 22. I'm 17. Easier to talk. I was talking to her about her education, what job she is holding now.
She said that her results was good in her primary and secondary school days, yet her mom is still not statisfied. I told her about my plight too. I told her that though i get many Cs last time, i am still able to live my everyday life to the fullest. She nodded her head in agreement and again, i think i saw her smiling.
After that, i asked her about her job, she says that she is currently an accountant in a company, and also working part time as a tution teacher, teaching Maths. I told her that is good. Yet she said that, though my jobs are good, whenever she goes home, she will still face the emptiness at home. At that point she went "bersek" again, saying : " If i had not had done all these things, she(her mom) wouldnt have care about me" , we can see that she is hoping to gain her mother's attention. Haix.
Suddenly the lift went, "ding....." a person came out, it was her aunt. Goodness, she broke down again. Scolding her mom for involving so many people. Haix after that, she keep asking her auntie to go home. And that dragged for another 20 mins or so.
We asked the aunt to go down first while we hoped to persuade them to go home. Well, this time, the mother and daughter went home. The moment the daughter stepped inside of their house, she asked her mother to go away as her legs were not clean (her mom came my house to wash legs), complaining that she didnt use soap and wash. *Faints* Her mom, ran back to my house again to wash.
And the whole thing continues for another 20 mins or so. Seriously i feel like slapping her. But i know i cant. However at some point of time, i was very harsh on her. Saying that how unfilial she is...My neighbour was like asking me not to speak anymore, but i dont care. I was speaking like as if i am a parent myself.
Haix, after a long while, she managed to went home, together with her mom who washed her legs 3 times at my house( with water, soap) they went back home, with the auntie accompanying them. Now, im worried.
I dont hope to know any suicidal case next morning. I hope there is no "loud" thud later too.
Haix..
This mother-daughter really makes me sad and pissed at the same time. She was crying very badly at one point, and her mother was walking away from her, yet she was crying for her mother not to leave.
But the mother continue walking away from her, thinking that her daughter asking her to move away. We were like, auntie can you stop moving away.
Seriously at some point, i really dont know what were they thinking.
But through this incident, i have realised something. Communication is really important in your family. I believe there is a lack of communication between them. Ever since she lost her grandma, i believe that is also the time where she became "depressed". Even if the mother dont show her care and concern towards her, the mother should at least gives her a hug or the other way round.
When is the time we really hug your parents and say " I love you" or " I appreciate your effort in raising me up all these years"? Do you even remember? I bet everyone only remembers how their parents scolded them, not knowing what you want. Sometimes, a hug, a kiss and a talk really helps. Though they may not know how to express their love, care and concern to us. But we all know, every parent in these world loves their kids, no matter how they looked like, how they behaved.
Go on, tell your parents i love you now! Do treasure them! Talk to them if you have any unhappiness. Dont suppress it inside your heart. It will only make you think of negaitve stuffs. No matter how your parents treat you, remember, they always love you.
every day is a new day ♥
